Mark Twain said (sic) that History doesn’t repeat itself but it often rhymes, and Mike and The Mechanics sang in ‘The Living Years’ that Every generation Blames the one before, and all of their frustrations, Come beating on your door.
And that, in a nutshell, says it all where generational conflict is concerned. Every generation expects more freedoms and choices: Enlightenment tends to do that. What it does not do is improve the complexity that is the human condition.
It all starts with parenting. It is one important skill in the human learning arsenal that does not have a definite set of manuals or instructions on how to raise a human child. What exists are tomes of opinions and personal experiences that, when all is said and done, are all very personal and myopic.
Every parent believes that they have the answers to the above-mentioned prickly pear. Every parent believes that they know their child and thus in a great position to educate and provide said child with life skills that will stand it in good stead going forward in life. Every parent also believes that they do not need advice or counseling where the upbringing of their precious child is concerned.
And thus starts a whole downward chain reaction of misaligned children, brats, opinionated kids and apprehensive parents: this is not how I brought my child up; I don’t know where she gets that from; Where did I go wrong…?
In general, there are 7 defined generations, and each had (have) their own specific styles of dealing with life (aspioneer.com):
1: The greatest generation 1901 – 1927 (saved the world)
2: The silent generation 1928 – 1945 (worked, did not take risks)
3: The baby boomers 1946 – 1964 (a very productive generation)
4: Generations X 1965 – 1980 (Work-life balance)
5: Millennials 1981 – 1995 (Self-conscience, Healthy)
6: Generation Z 1996 – 2010 (Technoholics)
7: Generation Alpha 2011 – 2025 (Kids growing older younger)
The interesting anomaly is that each generation learnt little from the previous generation’s mistakes as it relates to the human condition, they mostly just assimilated them into their life repertoire: Thus, the baby-boomers passed their ‘me’ tendencies onto their progeny who in turn amplified those tendencies onto their progenies.
To the generational basket one must add the Personality Dark Triad of personality types: Narcissism, Machiavellianism and Psychopathy. These personalities are deemed to be inherent in some people of whom mostly do not have a sense of empathy and morality. This malevolence logarithmic adds to the generational problem.
Sociopathy, a derivative of the Dark Personality Triad, is highly esteemed since the Baby Boomers with the accent of Me’ism, Entitlement and an overbearing win-at-all-costs mentality. One more often than not, finds these individuals in positions of power: corporate management, leadership, authority, politics…
The old adage of ‘Children must be seen and nor heard’ is of no value in modern society where all children are winners, are easily offended and know what life is all about. Are way wise beyond their age due to the accessibility to the www world, dominate conversations, mishaps are never their fault and are deemed cute beyond reasonableness by their parents (and anyone else be damned if they don’t value said child’s opinions and beliefs.)
Where too from here? Difficult to ascertain due to the global human diversity both culturally and geographical location: what is good from a western perspective is may not be deemed acceptable in other areas of the world.
Democracy in itself tends to augment generational problems. Rights, which tend to be turned into entitlements, makes generational disagreements a reality rather than diffusing them.
Wokeness produces the same results. They focus so much on creating a more genteel world that they forget about their own frailties and those of the people around them.
Politics, by their very nature, proclaim open-mindedness and tolerance. A theory that worsens differences rather than unifying them. And by accepting minority belief structures, the majority feel aggrieved and generally lash out aggressively.
Personally, I do not believe that the generation gap will ever be solved; much like the gender gap.
All that remains is to wave-and-smile. The rest is pure conversation.
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Auld Lang Syne and Banalities
January 9, 2023Once again, here I sit, at the cross-road between the has-been year and the wanabe year. How many times have I been here is somewhere between 67 and 66 years; depending on how the arithmetic is calculated.
What is relevant is the state-of-mind that age brings with it. I have learnt as I have aged, is that life, things, circumstances all have changed in meaning and seriousness. Nothing seems to be the same or even equal to what was apportioned to anything life that had meaning or significance. Life has become an apparition, a translucent fog of memories and understandings. Experience, on the other hand, tells me that I need every ounce of all said memories to help me navigate and make decisions on yet to be presented circumstances and situations.
In retrospect, 2022 was a funny peculiar year to say the least. Covid started off strong with visible signs of take-no-prisoners to total-surrender. And surrender it did. Going from mask-wearing and hand-sanitizing and distancing to nothing; absolutely nothing. In one foul swoop, life returned to normal; except in the country of origin where control of the little-bastard has been illusive and continues to run amok amongst a population that is losing touch with the realities of life under a small virus i.e., death is final.
The peculiarity did not end there. The Queen pulled her last breath. The newly elected United Kingdom Prime Minister lasted all of 40 plus days. The replacement Prime Minister was so off-center that he was quite normal and acceptable to the gob-smacked masses, and the Royals put on a brave face of a singular ethos.
In South Africa, a disgruntled out-of-work Correctional Services Official decided to lay allegations against the sitting President thus letting loose the dogs of war which in this case, the news media, their outcasts, their budding brethren and all opposition parties who saw blood in the water.
Must admit that said Official managed to distract the Legal Bodies who were investigation his highly compromised actions by introducing a greater bait for the media and its cronies to chomp into. In the end, as it is in politics, circumstances either dissolve into the atmosphere or take on a predisposed character as dictated by the ruling party. As a highly regarded ex-politician, Tito Mboweni, is quoted as saying and I paraphrase: In politics, take nothing at face value!
What is even more peculiar is that a known ‘high’ agent of criminality is now playing public moral agent and creating waves where there should be none.
Fickle humanity to say the least.
Anyways, after some contemplation on a few peculiarities of 2022, and the realization that the end result is always the same, the Labrador principle; wag tail, be happy, have food, wag tail, be happy, bark, be happy, get attention, be happy, wag tail, not get attention, be happy, seems to be the way to go.
It will take some mental trainings to evolve to such levels of happiness where getting annoyed, losing one’s temper, wanting one’s way, is no longer a necessity for, by all analysis, it achieves nothing: And nothing would have changed in life.
Again, I am left with the question of what lies ahead in 2023? Does it matter? Does anyone else care what I think?
What is evident, is that what were considered youngsters are now the ‘ruling’ mob, and those my age, find themselves at a stage between old age and something that is considered old but not really. Mentally, the mind is still young and strong, but bodily, it is showing signs of wear-and-tear, punctuated by crack-rattle-and-pop, and paracetamol.
Arithmetic has also proved to be an ally of note, for most public statements and beliefs can be nullified by the application of simple arithmetic principles: 24 hours, 365 days, 8 billion people, many ideologies, many diversities. The permutations are endless, unlike what the media so proudly proclaims in their black-and-white agendas. Even the weather predictors are only as accurate as what one perceives them to be.
Having lived through a few decades of life, the realities are what one has come to rely on. Positivism, wokeness, liberalism, et al, are nothing more than hot air inside a balloon: sooner or later it disperses and the balloon drops.
All that remains is to pop some champagne, watch some fireworks, sing some ancient song and spend new years day recovering from the indulgences of the previous evening.
Ja well no fine!
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