The subject of old age (a life disruptor) intrigues me on a personal level. It’s as if being on the outskirts of old age, and possibly in it, has changed my viewpoint of life, old age denial and medicine.
It is a given that one does not live long enough to experience all that life has to offer or throw in one’s way. And indications are that no number of life-times will expose one to all that is there to be experienced.
Too many, old age is experienced to the full. Others don’t get to experience old age due to the ravages of war, accidents, injuries, work, sickness, terrorism, murder, being in the wrong place at the wrong time, etc.
Those that consider themselves lucky to have ‘outlived’ old age, would have endured pain in one form or another, the anxiety associated with a diminishing memory, experienced varying degrees of sicknesses, lived through embarrassing bodily functions, carried around a body that was riddled with groans-and-moans associated with wear-and-tear, consumed tons of medicine and visited the doctor on a regular basis. In the end, irrespective of how hard they worked at maintaining a modicum of fitness and health during their old age, they still succumbed to the ‘great equalizer.’
What is intriguing, is the onset of old-age Denial. It’s as if the realization of having one foot in the grave drives many to such levels of denial so as to stave of the ravishes of old-age. To the old-timers, realities, become figments of the imagination, driving them to becoming suffocating moralistic, undesirably negative or annoyingly positive (depending on the predisposition of the individual,) and aggressive when the world does not listen to their so called ‘wisdom.’
Thus, normal conversations are rare, as any perceived inference by said old person of being wrong or deemed incapable, demands the unleashing of the claws of denial. The problem is that such attacks of denial by the aged are quickly relegated to the annals of ‘hum-ja’ by the younger others.
Other signs of old-age denial are the visible displays of fitness and mental powers: all the sudden, showing off mental acuities, exercising, healthy eating, and avoiding chemical-based pharmacology; be it pills, food, supplements and esoteric routines, are all the rage. Usually, the one involved in said healthy practices wants others to join them in their quest for longevity: and become highly moralistic and soap-boxy if one does not follow them in their quest.
The issue of being relevant (purpose, identity, power, relationships, routine) is the ‘Alma-mater’ of most old age conflicts.
The other observable sign of old-age is the vigorous need to undertaking artisan tasks. Tasks that were undertaken with ease in their youth. Most will go out of their physical powers to prove that they are still as capable as what they were; until they are injured that is, then they complain like mad when things don’t work out as they used to and if the injury takes ages to heal, scapegoats are manufactured and blamed for said delays.
*It is understood why old-age therapists advocate painting, music and gardening as a form of physical exercise and mental stimulation for they are the least invasive and intrusive on the boundaries of an ageing body.
Old age is supposed to be a time of stock-taking, time-management, enjoying hobbies, playing with grand-kids, making the most of a given situation, scaling down on secular activities i.e., banking chores, household maintenance, minimizing responsibilities, and going for casual walks or traveling.
Going against the grain just to prove that one is still able and capable, does nothing to ease family tensions as they are the ones who have to pick up the pieces re accidents, sicknesses, bed-side assistance, physio rehabilitation processes, shopping, fiduciary management, etc.
The question that remains is when does old age kick in? As usual, it depends on the quirks of the body, possible genealogy, mental breakdown, physical attributes and circumstances. Some are healthy until they are not and it usually happens overnight. Some, breakdown early in their lives. Some manage to live with mental ailments and physical breakdowns past their octogenarian stage. But only a few manage to get away without a hint of mental disengagements or some form of physical breakdown.
The rule-of-thumb, as per medical data, is that old age sets in at ± 60 to 70 years of age. Said age is based on statistics (generalities) and not individual longevities – longevity practices are mostly based on anecdotal evidence and not scientific data. Thus, saying that one’s longevity prognosis is good due to having lived a healthy life, is fallacious in concept.
Thus, old age and all its effects and maladies remains a contentious issue which will not go away. Resisting old age is counter intuitive but understandable given its implications and inevitable certainty.
Maybe if stories of public-interest did not only focus on the good-news exceptions, but rather on the general suffering experienced by the majority of old-timers, the anxiety and outlook surrounding what old-age means would not hurt that much.
The adage of balance and temperance should be taken notice off and applied by all old timers.
One way or the other, life does not care whether one lives to a ripe old age. Making it harder on others just because one feels that one is owed accolades and praises for having lived long does not change the what is: legacies are things of books, photographs, digital postings, etc., and not the human mind: it is said that it takes is one generation for legacies to evaporate!?
It should be remembered that life is one long lesson in humility for graveyards are full of irreplaceable people.
As Stephen King wrote in the movie Shawshank Redemption; “get busy living or get busy dying.” Acceptance of this principle should make life easier all round.
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Wokeness versus Humanity
June 1, 2023I once wrote that humans do not go about grunting, screeching, warbling, howling, roaring, etc., due to the amazing grey mass mounted inside our heads. A grey mass that has helped humanity get to a state of technological, engineering, agricultural and medical prosperity never before seen in history.
Humans are very industrious and adept at sorting out problems and challenges on the path of life, irrespective of opposition, strife and personal disabilities.
Yet, it is that very same grey matter that is leading a minority of humans to the belief that life is not about realities (or science) but about feelings. Feelings that are based on self-justification, self-aggrandizement and self-interest.
Said feelings leads said minorities to the uppermost belief that they have the answers to “Life, the Universe and Everything” else. – (D Adams). Something that they will shove down our throats at every given opportunity without much though as to how we feel about a given topic.
The typical rationale is that if they annoy the public enough, the government will be forced to give in to their one-sided demands.
The typical hide-behind is the tried and tested it-is-our-right-to-protest which usually prompts the police to defends said rights; even if the rights of others are being impinged on.
Of late, many video-clips of said protests have made their way onto social media platforms thus making them more accessible by the public at large. The interesting bit is that, by-and-large, the public commentaries are anti- what the protesters are trying to achieve.
In some countries, the police molly-coddle said protesters while in others, they disperse said protest with a modicum of severity.
One thing that is very noticeable is that the activist protesters have a mantra that they stick too irrespective of the questions being asked. And if they are pressed into explaining their actions (or beliefs,) they retort to shouting, screeching, barking, meowing and the like, thus making the matter at hand impossible to comprehend.
Every generation has had its fair share of anti-establishment movements that opposed (mostly without much rational thought but plenty of emotional rhetoric) the Government of the day – at least the ‘Hippies’ had lots of love to go with their protests.
Personally, the present day ‘woke’ or ‘cancel-culture’ activist movements makes no sense or presents a form of deducible validation as to their extreme actions: Yes, Save the Planet. But what about all the disparities and responsibility-tendrils that goes with said statement?
Humans have spent the last thousands of years dying, suffering and living, all in the hope of a better future, just for it all to be declared null-and-void by some that don’t like life.
History will one day tell a story of the efficacy or idiocy of said movements. As things stand, it is highly likely that it will all come to pass as just another attempt at changing life by some extremists.
The arithmetic of human-transformation is rather complicated for anything averaged by 8 billion people (and growing) is rather pitiful in content. Add cultures, diversity and gender into the mix and the numbers pale into insignificance.
For now, all one can hope for is that Politicians/Law Makers pay no heed to extreme activism, allow law-enforcement to do its job and pay just as much attention to the masses as what they do to the minorities.
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